Breaking my New Year’s resolution is better than keeping it


All this stuff was bought in 2014.

I made a resolution for 2014.  Big surprise, lots of people make resolutions.  But here’s the thing I realized about New Year’s resolutions.  The big ones, the ones that matter, and that you really really REALLY want to keep and be successful?  Ideally they’re not just for one year.  They are habit-changing LIFE resolutions.  People don’t want to lose weight for a year just to gain it back.  People don’t want to quit smoking just to start again 365 days later.  People don’t want to get out of debt just to do an about-face back into it.

My resolution this year was The Compact, defined by Wikipedia as “a social and environmental movement whose members promise not to buy anything new for a year”.  I was excited about this resolution, and I loved it.  It was a great year.  But, it’s not the type of resolution that you can sustain for life.  Because even if I can put off buying a mattress for the year, eventually one day I do need a replacement.  (That’s my agenda for January 1, by the way: playing Goldilocks shopping for a bed – and I’m SUPER excited.  Did you know you’re supposed to replace mattresses every 5-10 years?  No wonder my back hurts after.. uh.. much longer than that…..)

So here’s how my Compact experience went.  In the first four months of 2014, I only bought two things: a birthday gift for my grandma, and something I had already known I would need to purchase and established as an exception on the day I set the resolution.  Keeping this resolution was surprisingly easy – realizing that I didn’t need these things that were temptations – and even freeing – not even being distracted wandering through the aisles “just to look” because I wasn’t going to buy anything anyway.

And then things changed.

As the year went on it became clear that there were some things more important than keeping my resolution.   I didn’t immediately fill up a shopping cart at Target, but I did start to shell out some bucks.  Two of my friends published books; in support of their years of hard work I bought copies.  In January I had no idea that before 2014 was over I’d have to train for and run two very long and difficult races; in support of my health and safety I bought replacement running shoes.  I went to Uganda and met widow merchants creating goods to support their families; in support of these women and the local economy I didn’t hesitate to spend freely and bring their wares back home with me to share with friends and family.

This morning I made a list of everything purchased in 2014.  It fits easily on a 3×5 card.  But what’s most interesting is that I can recall every single thing.  Every item on that list was purchased deliberately and with consideration, nothing was bought on a whim or because it was cheap or on sale.  Looking back at that list, I don’t regret any of those purchases.

So, technically, I broke my resolution.  But I’m okay with that.  Actually MORE than okay!

I went into 2014 with a goal of decreasing accumulation, spending, and waste.  But if I came out in 2015 with the same habits I had in 2013 and prior, what would the point have been?  Instead, I’m going into 2015 with a continuing life resolution to be thoughtful in what I own, how I spend my money, and the amount of waste I generate.

Living – and breaking – The Compact taught me a lot of things this year that I hope to carry well beyond a one-year resolution:

I have enough, MORE than enough!   I need to be more grateful for what I have, never taking it for granted.

I need less than I think.  In fact, there are some things I don’t “need” at all.

Stuff doesn’t have to be new, shiny, and in perfect condition to still be useful.  I don’t need to replace something as soon as it breaks – or possibly at all.

Quality is better than quantity.

Generosity is better than stuff – by not buying I freed up funds, and found I was delighted to treat friends to lunch or a movie, or redirect those to people in need.  Best “purchases” of the year, hands down.

Stuff is awesome and there’s nothing wrong with having stuff.  But it should be accumulated thoughtfully, responsibly, and with gratitude and joy.

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One Response to Breaking my New Year’s resolution is better than keeping it

  1. Lynn K Hall says:

    I love this, Alissa! I’m amazed how well you did and inspired by you to be much more thoughtful about my purchases!

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